If you have trained in your martial art or combat system for any length of time you will no doubt have had, or will have this experience; the experience is that you learn a technique, practice it a number of times over and become reasonably proficient at the application of the technique. Then one night you hit the mat, your Sensei or instructor calls for the application of that technique and your partner turns to you and says “no, that is not right, do it this way”…. Often times this can then be the point where two training partners can then ratchet up to a dispute. Sometimes it is easily resolved and other times it can quickly escalate to the tenth degree of stupidity and be perhaps just as frustrating for everyone else at the same time.
The point that I would like to make is that sometimes when you approach your training in your given system that it can be a really good idea to learn to ‘agree to disagree’, assuming that is actually possible to do so in the given situation.
I find it interesting to observe this in the art of Aikido, when the founder O’Sensei Morihei Ueshiba openly stated “Ultimately, you must forget about technique. The further you progress, the fewer teachings there are. The Great Path is really No Path”. Bruce Lee is recorded as saying something with perhaps some similarities here when he stresses the importance to his students of “using no way as way” This is suggested to mean that you come into training with no presuppositions, that you remain in the moment and be in a position to meet the challenge with the right tools that work as opposed to being limited because your mind is not open.
Sadly some people can become openly quite anal over the application of a technique and others can go as far as using it as justification to turn their back on their teacher and to start yet another school of the same discipline simply because their way is the only correct way and that the other schools are inferior and people are pretty lucky that we have person x there to point this out to the rest of us..
To come back to my first point, having the capacity to agree to disagree is a good quality to develop if you wish to take you training further. As you train you will feel differently about the application of techniques that you currently can perform well and how they are used in training. It is likely that you may actually change your mind several times over until you resolve it yourself one way or another later on down the track. I would much rather admit that perhaps I was wrong about something than stay stuck in a pattern of training that is next to useless in real application because of personality issues being put before the application of the content of the training.
Finally, if you are the person on the mat at training who constantly feels the need to continuously correct people, think about it carefully and perhaps give some thought to stepping back and allowing your Sensei / Instructor to teach in the way that they feel is best. Despite your best intentions you are unlikely to be even remotely as good nor as experienced as them even if they are having a bad day. If you find yourself feeling like you are constantly in conflict with the way you are being taught then your time at that training centre may well be coming to an end and it may be time to move on somewhere else or alternatively to take some time out and to get some things back into perspective. Character, humility and sportsmanship are qualities that should be exemplified in your personal training, approaching your Sensei / Instructor and fellow students in such a way will not be rejected and may well open the door for you in a leadership role later on should you so desire it.